These operations have safely coexisted for many years, so the idea that they can't possibly safely coexist is wrong.
And while I'm certain you are very important to your friends and family, the notion that there aren't people who are actually significantly more important than you to the continued functioning of our elected government in times of crisis is utterly absurd.
For the first part, that's provably incorrect. The flight paths of the helicopters and the aircraft on approach, considering the margin of error of each, overlap. That means that the only thing that keeps this from happening is that the time period of overlap is small, so it's an uncommon or rare failure. But it happens, and the absolute proof is this accident. That "visual separation" is the real method of separation requires the assumption that this method works. Again, this accident is an indication that is does not. Two aircraft ended up at the bottom of the river because this was NEVER safe, just rare.
As to "visual separation", the analogy I'll use is the old joke about a guy selling elephant repellent in Ohio. Someone walks up and says "there aren't any elephants in ohio!", and the salesman said "Of course not. This stuff works great." Wishing something works, and the observation of things following in sequence does not prove causality. On a more scientific layer, how does someone read the N number of an aircraft, at night, on a right angle collision course with an intercept speed of around 100 knots? That's a rhetorical question.
As to the second part, there is no person's life in this country that is ANY more important than any others, and certainly none that are significantly so. That's not just basic morality, that's one of the fundamental priniciples that the country was based on. In terms of civilian leadership, they're elected to serve the people. They rotate through regularly, and they represent us. One of the beautiful things about a democratic government is that there is no divine, mystical, or inherited power system. We will survive through any change of leadership, and we always have. In terms of the military leadership, it is there duty to stand in front of, not behind, the people they serve...and the people I've known in person and on this board who have been in that role are universal in that appreciation. Leaders do not stand behind civilians in this country. And for a more practical perspective, if we've learned anything from the past 25 years or so, it is the civilian population that is likely the target of any foreign attack on US soil.
Or to sum it up and bring it back to aviation, we do live in a world where some passengers pay more and get better snacks and more leg room. But we don't live in a society where we evacuate first class before the rest of the cabin. Or at least we're not supposed to.