Being from Alabama, and also a father with 2 daughters (11,16)
This gives me great reservations as a student pilot to further my training. The above comments are somewhat reassuring to some degree, but I’ll probably will never be as experienced as this guy.
I am sure that he didn’t go out thinking he was about to kill his family.
This definitely has given me something to think about.
Keep training, keep learning, keep flying.
This guy put himself and his family in a really bad spot.
First: Big mountains. Nothing wrong with that, if the conditions are right. I've crossed through that area myself several times, but never in conditions anything like that.
Second: Weather. Icing. And even though he was equipped for it, icing in the mountains can be severe and like *any* flight where you might encounter icing, you need to have outs and you need to be willing to execute them. Having tall rocks under you takes away the easiest out (descending into warmer air). It sounds like the freezing levels were far lower than any safe flying altitude. We're already in no-go-land, but we're nowhere near done listing all the things that they were dealing with.
Third: Weather again - Winds. With winds like that in the mountains, you just don't fly that day. It must have been one hell of a rough ride, probably bouncing heads off the top of the plane frequently.
Fourth: Fatigue. They'd been flying all day, and were likely at the stage where all they could think about was getting to their destination to be able to rest. Finding an alternate to divert to, and then finding a place to stay and rest there sounds like a lot more work, but it beats the hell out of dying. The fatigue likely contributed to their poor decisionmaking.
Fifth: Engine failure. This may have had something to do with the icing, or inexperience with higher-altitude flying (mixture way too rich?), or it could have just been simple bad luck. But, light twins on a single engine climb very poorly in the best of circumstances. This plane was going to go down even without the wind and its associated updrafts and downdrafts, and even without the icing.
There were just far too many things going wrong on this flight for them to succeed in landing safely - But they could have changed the outcome.
So how do you keep yourself safe? Make a plan, and DO NOT stick to it. Make plans B, C, and D, and be ready to throw those out at a moment's notice as well. If you are the type of person who has to stick to Plan A, aviation is not for you.
In your planning, consider what challenges you might be presented with (terrain, weather, fatigue, emergencies) and how you'll deal with them at various points along your flight. Make a list of "no go items" during your planning and STICK TO THEM. In this case, if the pilot had followed the conventional wisdom of not flying in the mountains with winds aloft >25 knots, we wouldn't be having this conversation. Also, consider what risks you might face, and how you can mitigate them. There have been some good suggestions already in this thread - Follow a route with lower terrain, more airports, calmer weather, etc... But the key, above all, is to continue this process throughout your flight, listen to your inner voice, and be VERY willing to cut your losses, land, and live to fly another day.