Alvin, I hope you have consulted an experienced AME by now and are waiting to follow their advice, if not you may have more issues and waiting with the FAA if you don't respond appropriately.
I haven't been back to this thread since my last response, but it's a little bit of a dumpster fire and you keep fueling it on.
Regardless of what happened you have a conviction of a crime, you will have to deal with this occasionally for the rest of your life. How you deal with it will make your life easier in the long run.
People will have opinions of what happened to you whether they are right or wrong. The thing is, their opinions don't matter. You can get dragged into endless back and forth, or you can say something like, "yeah, I'm not a thief, but I can certainly understand why the girl might have thought I was. I handled this very badly and paid a price for it. I haven't been in trouble since, nor will I ever be again. I really regret my decisions back then, I'm smarter now, something like that will never happen to me again."
And that's it, don't talk about wanting to be rich, don't get dragged into conversations about your life, except to say " I have a beautiful, very successful wife, wonderful children and I want to be successful for them." And "this is a lifelong dream of mine and I'm finally in a position to pursue it."
You really want to work on that when you need to talk about this. I really think that it's what people helping you to deal with this and people making decisions on it want to hear. Getting argumentative during the discussion will just sour them on you, so don't get drawn into arguing stuff that doesn't matter to your problem.