So don't base yourself in HNL. That plus if you aren't the sole breadwinner in the family, $50k plus your spouse's income may be just fine.
A bit snobby, this: "I value my financial future and solvency above getting paid in picturesque scenery instead of real wages." So, you're saying less than $50k isn't "real wages?" The national average wage index for 2015 is $48,098.63. <
https://www.ssa.gov/oact/cola/AWI.html> I guess the average salary is "fake wages."
To each his own, but there's no need to be a snob about it.