To be fair, the only girls I ever knew in flight school were attrited well before getting wings....I literally have never seen a girl winged into fighters. That being said, I know two in the entire Navy who were well after my time, and they have done fine.
Personally, I think Nauga is on point. LT Hultgreen died in a grumpy jet that had all the horrible characteristics of a fighter that should have been re-enginened well before her time. If you want to judge, you better have crossed the ramp at night in a fighter. If you haven't, you have no stake in this convo