Let'sgoflying!
Touchdown! Greaser!
It's a thing.
We have one person in my wife's side of the family who has been known to react in extreme ways to tiny things that nobody would have even thought to worry about. This person hasn't really been bad for a few years but everyone- especially her grown-up kids are terrified she'll blow up at any moment. So everyone is on edge, afraid to truly open up, and all we watch is non-offensive children's programming(mostly Disney) despite everyone being well over 20 at this point in case some coarse language might upset someone.
I have a family member like that. After a uncalled for blowup, I sat her down and told her that she is not welcome in my house anymore. She stayed away for about 2 years and returned only recently. Behaved herself.
Sometimes you have to rid yourself of negativity.
A bunch coming over soon, family mostly. Gonna get interesting because son-in-law and his dad will want to watch football and my wife restricts it to Christmas music. She says they can go downstairs in the den to watch it.
One thing we did for thanksgiving is to abandon the "turkey and 100 side dishes" production. For the last several years, I have done pork shoulder, ribs, and chicken for the non-pork folks in the family. Each family subset brings one or two sides, but it ends up like a summer BBQ. This takes most of the stress off the cook (me) and gets everyone out of the "big production" rut so we can actually all enjoy the day.
You left it in the Cirrus.I'm about ready to strangle someone.
Where's my wine?
I give you credit for being different! LOLLOL. At least there's two TVs. I had enough of Christmas music a couple of days ago and had 200 miles worth of driving to do throughout the day so I put on old Army Air Corps and Air Force drinking songs in the car from the iPhone. Haha.
"Calllllll out... calllllll out..... call out the GD Reserves, Reserves! Calllllll out.... calllllll out.... call out the GD Reserves!" (Sung to the tune of My Bonnie Lies Over the Ocean...)
Was a nice change of pace. Haha.
I'm about ready to strangle someone.
Where's my wine?
By any chance, does that wine bottle have a red cork?
The only stressful thing about it for me is the trip to Long Island on Christmas Day. I hate going Downstate for any reason. I'm even in the process of buying a used grave up here so I don't have to go Downstate to be buried. I hate it that much. That's why I moved up here. But despite my persistent lobbying, Long Island is where the gathering is.
This year I dread the trip even more than usual because I have a hunch that the security will be unusually high, which is not a bad thing in itself, but which adds annoyance to an already-annoying trip. Back in the good old days, we only had to worry about the rusty old Tappan Zee Bridge crumbling under its own weight and splashing into the Hudson. Now we have to worry about wackos and extremists threatening to blow it up.
I find myself hoping for a blizzard, which is one of the few acceptable reasons for not going. I even volunteered to stay up here and dog-sit so my parents could stay Downstate longer and wouldn't have to worry about boarding their dog. The dog and I get along quite well. We sit and talk for hours, like old friends, and have never had the slightest argument. I would be happy to dog-sit for a few days, I offered. But my parents, although old, are still blessed with enough wits that they saw through that ruse.
That aspect of it bothers me, too: My parents are in good health for their age, but I think it's a bit selfish for my brothers to expect them to make that trip rather than their coming up here. I guess because my parents stay down there for a few days, they don't mind so much. I come back on the same day. That makes for a longer day, most of it spent driving.
If the WX is decent, sometimes I drive there and/or back on secondary roads. It makes the drive slightly less boring.
This is the time of the year when I consider getting a medical and a PP so I can fly there and back. But I really can't be bothered spending the money and jumping through the hoops for the medical. And frankly, FRG is no prize, either. Between that and the drive from the nearest airport to my house, it's probably faster to drive.
I really don't mind the family get-together itself. My long trip home gives me an acceptable excuse for leaving before everyone gets drunk and the arguments break out. I don't even mind the trip back very much. Getting out of the NYC Metro Area is usually a lot easier than getting into it. It's like a funnel. The congestion occurs mainly on the way in, not the way out.
Other than the trip, I don't mind the season. There are things I do that make it meaningful enough. It's just the trip that I hate.
Rich
Yeah, I'm done with the holiday travel to the Island as well; last Christmas I said that was the last time. I spend more in tolls than gas; gotta fund those fat MTA pensions. When traffic is stopped it's maddening; when it's flowing it's like driving in the Grand Prix on the Belt Parkway. Except the other participants are either rank amateurs, drunks, playing with their phones, or genuinely out to kill someone. They also drive like they have a Formula One and not the minivan they have in reality. I'd fly but FRG tower sucks, and then I'd have to drive the Southern State to the destination. Not what I consider fun.
True, Bobby Mo wouldn't be able to get anything done today.It's pretty much a nightmare. Robert Moses fell out of favor before he got to build his bridge over the Sound, which would have prevented a lot of the problems getting into and out of The Island. Every time I have to go down there, I wish he'd managed to pull off that one last project.
Rich
I'm even in the process of buying a used grave up here so I don't have to go Downstate to be buried.
Rich
A "used" grave? Sounds morbid, never heard that before Rich.
Most of my Mom's family has those above ground crypt thingies. From what I understand, the non-dead buy and sell those thing all the time just like buying and selling homes. You even get a deed to the "property." I am not interested in my casket and body being exposed over time as the building slowly decays and returns to nature. Just put me in the ground and let me go back that way. I have seen stories of the companies that have owned those places goign out of business and then no one takes them over and takes care of things.Yeah, the family that owns it moved the body formerly occupying it to a plot at another cemetery. Why, I can't imagine. I doubt the dead guy cared very much. But "new" graves are getting harder to come by. The attrition rate among the dead is extremely low. So I figure a "used" grave is just as good.
Rich
Shopping Mall killer! LOLI sort of wish I could fast forward from November 1 to March 1 every year. Although Amazon has greatly reduced my shopping stress.
I sort of wish I could fast forward from November 1 to March 1 every year. Although Amazon has greatly reduced my shopping stress.
Most of my Mom's family has those above ground crypt thingies. From what I understand, the non-dead buy and sell those thing all the time just like buying and selling homes. You even get a deed to the "property."
Locally there is a cemetery that has been getting vandalized over the past year and a half. People have done over 1.5 mil in damage to grave stones and markers in the older part. Most likely there aren't any relatives of the deceased to pay for the restoration so no one will.
David
Interesting reading/choice. Thanks.