Unfortunately, it seems there are a lot of things working against you. All I know is what you have posted above. Specifically:
1)Qualified, trained medical people have diagnosed you with ADHD, ASD, ADD, hospitalized twice.
2) Medication has been prescribed and is taken. The medication is helping
3) You and a few others who are not (or have not established to be) qualified, trained medical people, disagree
4) Academic issues which are blamed on the teachers
5) You are a VATSIM controller
As you probably know, a medical only hinges on your person, not your grades or whether you do any simulation work (as pilot or controller, etc), so only points 1 - 3 are relevant here.
I would suggest that point 3 above is irrelevant because, well, you're not trained or qualified.
So now we're down to just points 1 and 2 being relevant to getting a medical. Yeah, gonna be hard to convince the FAA. I have no definite answer, but I'm sure others will. After all, you've been around here long enough to know who to page.
Remember, though, if you're wanting to work as a pilot you will need at least a class II medical if not a class I, so that's added requirements.
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While only points 1 & 2 above really apply to the medical, that is not the only hurdle you'll have to jump through to be a pilot.
Let's jump on the positive train and say you get the medical (I sincerely hope you do, btw).
You now have to complete the training. This is where points 3 - 5 come in, and they are not encouraging and here is why:
Point 3 shows you consider your untrained opinion to be as qualified as that of people who actually are qualified. This shows an arrogance to think you know more than they do. Do medical people make wrong diagnosis? Sure, but my money is on the docs vs some non-medical personnel. If you really feel it is a bad diagnosis, go get a second opinion by a qualified doctor. Considering your opinion to be of higher value than it is has lead to many fatal accidents in all walks of life but most relevant here, to fatalities in aviation.
Point 4 shows that you do not take responsibility for your results. While this is not particular to you, it is still a problem. Ultimately the purpose of school is to teach you about <this> subject (art, history, math, whatever). If your teacher doesn't cover it, go find a video. I am confident there are YouTube videos on every subject you could want. You need to cultivate the ability to learn from many sources since I promise that you will not have amazing teachers for every material covered between now and your dream job.
Point 5 shows desire to be part of the system, but could also lead to learning bad habits. If you and an instructor in the future disagree about something, do everyone a favor and do NOT say "Well, that's how we do it in VATSIM" you will get absolutely no credit for that response.
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Despite the possible tone of the above, I sincerely wish you will and hope you manage to achieve your dream.
I landed on this site from a bing search on a nuanced logging question…however
So much wrong here
I have seen “Qualified, trained medical people” misdiagnose things across the board, and the ADD craze is almost a cliche for pill pushing doctors, often times this is a diagnosis for bad parenting.
Put a good kid in a challenging school, one you might have to pay for, and making sure they diet and exercise well, this eliminates most of these problems
How do you know the medication is working?
He is VERY qualified to say what is going on with HIS body
If he is in public school, it very well might be the teachers, my son went to the same high school I went to, based on a change of politics and local demographics of living near the southern border, the classes he was taking at the HS level were akin to what he took in his private middle school, this was my mistake thinking my old high school would be anything like it was, we pulled him out, he got his GED, tested into a community college and is now close to his MBA
The issue the poster here has is mostly bad parents, I have seen many parents who like the idea of having kids but are not equipped to raise them, this leads to high energy little adults being raised by no idiot left behind poorly performing schools and medicated into compliance to the lowest common denominator
Depending on what issues caused the hospital visits, he should go talk to a AME off the books and go take the ADD tests, maybe there is a unofficial cheap version to see how he would do
In the big picture of becoming a pilot (I fly mid sized jets for a living) 3-6k is nothing, but that is only if his possibly absent parents will pay for it, maybe get a job and pay for it himself?
Having a passion for being a controller online, making a account here, that’s doing better than most of the high school kids I saw with my sun, most didn’t even thing ahead to the next day, and most lacked the follow through or foresight to be a controller online or make an account on a place like this and ask these questions
Apologies for any typos, sent from my phone
