Hey, folks.
As many of you know, my wife's grandmother is 100 years old, and lives at home in her house in Tallahassee, doing quite well for herself.
But my wife's mom, who is almost 80, also lives there, and she is in extremely poor condition, essentially immobile with very bad scoliosis, and sundry other maladies which make her (in my opinion) needful of professional care all the time.
Instead, Grandmother (the 100-year-old one) is tending to her, cooking for her, bathing her, and generally busting her backside. It is going to kill her.
I admit, we have not a clue how such things work, but is there no relief at hand from Medicare / Medicaid to provide some sort of in-home assistance? Grandmother insists that nothing is available, and I freely admit complete ignorance... but (then again) my mom is in none too good condition here in Dallas, and she is getting help at home from periodic nurse visits, etc.
It would be good if Mother were in a nursing home, which IMHO she needs, and then Grandmother could either maintain her status-quo in her house with some modest help, or perhaps move into an assisted-living place. But Grandmother insists (and she is strong-willed) that she is staying in the house to tend to Mother, because "...she's my daughter."
Anybody out there have any idea what is available as a support resource for conditions like these? Neither Grandmother, nor Celia's Mom, has substantial financial resources; Grandmother had some money years ago but, as she says, "no one plans to live to 100 years old." She's self-supporting, but that's about it.
My wife's parents, likewise, are not wealthy, and her dad, while 85 years old, is in relatively good health and still needs to be able to maintain himself.
So how does all this stuff, for which we all pay with every paycheck, work? Is it a vast federal money-sucker that's available to somebody, just nobody we know?
Wits' end, ideas welcomed!
As many of you know, my wife's grandmother is 100 years old, and lives at home in her house in Tallahassee, doing quite well for herself.
But my wife's mom, who is almost 80, also lives there, and she is in extremely poor condition, essentially immobile with very bad scoliosis, and sundry other maladies which make her (in my opinion) needful of professional care all the time.
Instead, Grandmother (the 100-year-old one) is tending to her, cooking for her, bathing her, and generally busting her backside. It is going to kill her.
I admit, we have not a clue how such things work, but is there no relief at hand from Medicare / Medicaid to provide some sort of in-home assistance? Grandmother insists that nothing is available, and I freely admit complete ignorance... but (then again) my mom is in none too good condition here in Dallas, and she is getting help at home from periodic nurse visits, etc.
It would be good if Mother were in a nursing home, which IMHO she needs, and then Grandmother could either maintain her status-quo in her house with some modest help, or perhaps move into an assisted-living place. But Grandmother insists (and she is strong-willed) that she is staying in the house to tend to Mother, because "...she's my daughter."
Anybody out there have any idea what is available as a support resource for conditions like these? Neither Grandmother, nor Celia's Mom, has substantial financial resources; Grandmother had some money years ago but, as she says, "no one plans to live to 100 years old." She's self-supporting, but that's about it.
My wife's parents, likewise, are not wealthy, and her dad, while 85 years old, is in relatively good health and still needs to be able to maintain himself.
So how does all this stuff, for which we all pay with every paycheck, work? Is it a vast federal money-sucker that's available to somebody, just nobody we know?
Wits' end, ideas welcomed!
