I'm going to copy a post from a "graybeard" on our local DCPilots mailing list.
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It seems like we, or at least I, go through this a couple of times a
year. Either we lose someone on the list, or somebody I or a bunch of
us know, or some combination. They say that licensed pilots are less
than 2% of the population of the country, but off the top of my head I
can come up with 20 or so pilots I have known that we've lost the hard
way in the last ten years or so. That's two a year, which even I can
figure out. Of all the other people I know, I think something like five
have lost their lives in accidents of one sort or another, and that's
going back as far as I can remember.
I'm not going to get into the argument about the relative safety of
flying as opposed to all the other things people do, but one thing
that's clear is that the risks are different and that the penalties far
greater. Experience is a rough teacher; first we get the test and then
the lesson. Sometimes, life is like that.
Nobody becomes a pilot by accident. It takes hard work to begin with
and then more hard work to keep up. The pilots I know are also some of
the smartest people I know, and that's not a coincidence. But, the
nature and physics of flying dictate that we're pushing the envelope of
our resources. Sometimes, it breaks.
Those of us who commit aviation are a small community. As I said, I
didn't know Karen and that's my loss. But, I'm very tired of losing
members of this community and especially people whom I've come into
contact in with one way or another. Our thoughts are with their
families, coworkers, and everyone else who knew them.
Obviously, I've no clue what happened in this instance, but I ask that
everyone take a step back and double-check everything. Be sure, and be
careful. This routine is getting very, very tired.
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If what this fine gentleman said resonates with you, and causes you to recover that determination to be "perfect" in your flying, then Karen's death will not have been without some redeeming effects.