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Final Approach
A friend's daughter is dealing with this. In September she had a few surgeries and they dug up some cancer and apparently are fairly confident they got it all. Nonetheless they put her on interferon treatments. She's not reacting well - at all. At all.
She is actually going to take a leave of absence from her work (and I hope this doesn't turn into a sad insurance story sometime later...).
She's considering dropping the interferon b/c she feels so bad and she learned it only lowers your chances of re-occurrence another 5-10%. She was told the rate of re-occurrence is 50-50 otherwise.
Any words of encouragement I could give her? Does that sound accurate to you? If they dug it out and she is clean, is it far fetched to think she could stay off the interferon and more or less pick up where her life left off and just hope it doesn't come back?
For what it is worth, my Dad had melanoma in 1994 (bad mole), they dug out many many lymph nodes, were sure they got it all, and he hasn't had it come back since. Now, he also tells me he DOES NOT go back in for medical checkups - he just checks visually. That makes no sense to me whatsoever. Shouldn't you get at least semi-regular official checkups?
In a way, my family has acted like, "well, that happened, it's over, move on" and we don't even think about it - should we? Ditto that for my MOM's cancer (one year later, sarcoma) and then my eye issues/blindness. (maybe we are all in denial).
Thanks for any feedback.
She is actually going to take a leave of absence from her work (and I hope this doesn't turn into a sad insurance story sometime later...).
She's considering dropping the interferon b/c she feels so bad and she learned it only lowers your chances of re-occurrence another 5-10%. She was told the rate of re-occurrence is 50-50 otherwise.
Any words of encouragement I could give her? Does that sound accurate to you? If they dug it out and she is clean, is it far fetched to think she could stay off the interferon and more or less pick up where her life left off and just hope it doesn't come back?
For what it is worth, my Dad had melanoma in 1994 (bad mole), they dug out many many lymph nodes, were sure they got it all, and he hasn't had it come back since. Now, he also tells me he DOES NOT go back in for medical checkups - he just checks visually. That makes no sense to me whatsoever. Shouldn't you get at least semi-regular official checkups?
In a way, my family has acted like, "well, that happened, it's over, move on" and we don't even think about it - should we? Ditto that for my MOM's cancer (one year later, sarcoma) and then my eye issues/blindness. (maybe we are all in denial).
Thanks for any feedback.